How to Find Love Again After a Painful Breakup


Love is hard to find once your heart has been broken. Your mind will be racing with thoughts having to do with being able to trust again. In any romantic relationship, it is hard to trust. 

It’s important for you to examine what went wrong in the relationship once it has ended.  Its time for you to take out your journal and start writing about what you believe the problem is and how it can be corrected. It’s never easy to feel like you are in a place of mind in which you feel like love will never enter your life again.

When you have a painful breakup, the last thing on your mind is getting involved with someone new. You often go through a period in which you want to feel sad and perhaps eat some ice cream.  Yes, we have all been there.

It’s time for you to start writing in your journal about what you feel went wrong and who is to blame. The great thing about keeping a journal is that its your version of what happened. Nobody can say anything to you about your opinion. This helps you to relieve stress and painful memories of the relationship that made you feel sad.

It’s important for you to be honest with yourself.  What do you think happened?  Were you texting your lover to much or calling them excessively?  Did they often tell you that you are a bit too much for them to handle?  Were you feeling like something was wrong and yet he/she never said something to you about how they felt? 

Painful breakups often occur because you or the person that you are with was not happy.  If you don’t feel something for someone, its hard to stay together with them. 

Will You Find Love Again?

Yes, you will find love again.  I know that you don’t believe that right now because your heart has been broken. However, love will come to you again. You can only grow from your last relationship and realize that the two of you had problems.  Perhaps you or the person that you were with were not willing to work on your issues together. This does happen from time to time. When you feel that the person you are with is pushing you aside, it’s time to evaluate why.  This is something that you should work on in your next relationship.

How to Deal with Painful Loss

  • Keep your mind occupies.
  • Get into a hobby that makes the time go by quickly.
  • Find someone to talk to.
  • Get involved in a talk group.
  • Don’t hold your feelings in.
  • Don’t try to get back with the person that you broke up with.
  • Accept that it didn’t work out.
  • Read books on how to have a good relationship.

What if Your Ex Wants You Back?

Depending on the reason why the two of you broke up to begin with is something that you only know. If you take your ex back, you need to understand that if you didn’t correct your problem the first time around, most likely you will break up again. 

Many couples in the world today will try to work on their problems. They will often feel that they want to take a chance and try making the relationship work again. However, they quickly come to realize that they still have the same problem that broke them up to begin with.  Before taking an ex back, you need to first ask yourself if you want the romance to work again. 

You also need to find out why your ex wants you back to begin with.  You need to have love and a new thought process.  Before getting involved again, its important for you to get relationship counseling.  Your relationship can’t work again if you both don’t know how to fix your problem.  This often takes time and effort. Love is something that is powerful.  However, your heart will only get broken again if you walk into the relationship blindly again.

Are You Soulmates?

There is no question that soulmates have problems.  You may have met your soulmate and it will often take time for the relationship to become perfected. This is because your soulmate may have had their heart broken many times before meeting you.  They might have trust issues or anger problems that they are dealing with. Unfortunately, a soulmate is often not brought to you on a “silver platter”.  You need to work on your love together and ask one another a lot of questions.

Take a Trip Together

If you plan on getting back with your ex, its important for the two of you to take a long trip together. This will help the two of you to bond. Being away from social media and computers alone in the woods is often the best type of vacation to take. 

Many times, relationships break up because a couple is not focused enough on one another.  They may be more interested in working to make money or paying attention to who is saying something about them on social media.

Many problems in relationships today happen when two people are not focused enough on their relationship.  You must examine your heart and see if this is what went wrong in your relationship. 

Know That You Are Not Alone

Often, we get into a place emotionally where we feel like we are alone. We may think that nobody else is going through what we are.  However, know that generations before you have gone through something similar and its painful.  Everyone has painful memories of an ex that has hurt them. You are not alone. 

It’s important to see that you don’t have to feel like you are the only person that this happens to. Many people fail at finding love numerous times before finding their life partner. People all over the world struggle with this. 

It’s important for you to see that you don’t have to worry about the future of your relationship with other people. You will find that your soulmate is out there.

Twin Flame Writer

I have been writing horoscopes since I was in high school. I enjoy learning about astrology and teaching it as well. I am a believer in love and soulmates. I find that people often enjoy learning about psychics as well. My goal is to write articles that are helping for people.

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