Why He May Have Dumped You?
There is nothing worse than waking up in the morning and finding out that your boyfriend has blocked you. You feel like you have done nothing wrong and yet you can’t get through to him either by phone, text or social media. He has made it clear that he is over you. He may have told you to your face that he was over you or perhaps just decided to ghost you.
Is Getting Dumped Fun?
Yes, getting dumped is going to be the worst day of your life. Nobody likes to feel that they have just been let go by someone that they saw themselves having a future with. You may ask yourself why and what did you do to deserve this.
You will find yourself running around in a circle inside of your mind. You are trying to figure out why he may have dumped you. What went wrong?
It’s important to not drive yourself insane thinking about what might have gone wrong. It can be a thousand different reasons. It’s important to know that he has given you a clear message right now that he doesn’t want to be bothered.
Women often get dumped by a guy when they have been texting him to much or have become to overbearing for him. Many guys today feel that the woman in their life is acting more like the guy than the woman. Many guys are missing the fact that they are not being able to chase the girl as much as previous generations have.
We are seeing guys beginning to rebel against women doing the chasing. If you have found yourself checking out his social media and then telling him about what you read, it can make him feel like you are stalking him or invading his space.
It’s not always other women in the picture. Many guys feel that they have tried to tell you in their own way what they feel wasn’t working. Perhaps you missed the message.
Is It Important to Focus on You?
After getting dumped, you will need to do a self-evaluation. You may have to check yourself out to see if you are a nag, control freak or simply to overwhelming with being on top of him.
Have other guys dumped you as well? You need to be honest with yourself because friends and family will often not want to be honest with you. They will often tell you that you are the greatest person in the world and that there are “plenty of fish in the sea.”
However, you may feel that you have been dumped a lot before in the past as well and now wonder what you need to do about it.
If this is your first time getting dumped by a guy, you are not alone. Relationships today often come and go. Many guys today feel that they don’t want to be with the same women for a long period of time.
The main reason is because they simply don’t want to feel like they are married. Many guys today prefer being single and staying single. They are okay with dating for a few months, but once things get to boring or they get horny for another girl, they may want to “kick you to the curb.” Yeah, it does suck. However, you need to understand that it may not entirely be your fault.
Most men today complain that their significant other is to demanding. They often feel like their space is being invaded. Have you ever stayed over a guy’s house and felt like he was hiding his phone from you? Yes, this is becoming a common problem now a days.
Many guys like to hide what they are doing online from you. They may lock their phone with a secret password and never let you see who they have been texting or talking to.
Today, relationships are often hard to juggle. You may feel like he has another life outside of you. You may wonder if he is worth your time anymore. Should you invest your time into a guy that wants to have a private life outside of you?
This is a question that you must ask yourself. Most guys today don’t like telling you everything that you are doing. In previous generations, men always had a private life. He went to work in the morning and the woman wouldn’t see him until he got home.
There was no texting or phone calls. When the two of you got together, you were happy to talk about what happened throughout your day. Today’s relationships often miss that mystery. Many relationships today involve to much talking throughout the day. When the two of you come together in person, there is nothing to talk about. Yes, this can make a guy want to dump you.
Do Men Get Bored Easily?
Ask any man if he is bored and he will mostly likely tell you that he is. Men like their “toys” because it stimulates them in life. They like to feel that they can have something to look forward to.
Men often like cars, houses and anything else that money can buy. When he sees a pretty girl, he often gets turned on by her and wonders what it would be like to sleep with her. Some men cross the line and cause problems in the relationship.
It’s important to keep your relationship alive and have him coming back for more. Relationships today tend to move to fast. Women that lived in the 1940’s often waited for marriage to have sex and to live with their man. This left the man hungering for more.
In today’s world, most men and women are sleeping together after a few dates and often decide to live together in a few months of dating. This works for some women, but for most this destroys the relationship. He has basically gotten the entire cow and no longer needs to buy the milk.
Can You Win Him Back?
Winning him back won’t be easy. In all honesty, only time is going to make him want to come back to you. Right now, he has decided that he doesn’t want you. He needs to miss you and missing you will take time.
The worst thing that you can do is to text him or contact him. You are clearly hurt by him dumping you. It’s time to show him that if he wants you back, he is going to have to chase you and look you up. Remember, men like to chase and not to be chased. You may be in this situation because you were chasing him too much to begin with.
This will require some patience. You will have to wait for him to come to you and to show you that he still wants you. Yes, he may have to go out and date other girls for now. He may have to sleep around a bit and see that nobody else is going to give him the kind of love that you gave him. Wait patiently for him to come back to you.
Once he comes back to you, you will be able to see that his heart is in the right place again. If he doesn’t come back, then he really didn’t want you after all. The worst thing that you can do is to chase a man that really doesn’t want to have anything to do with you right now. It can be hard to place your trust in something that you can’t see right now. Therefore, its best to just back away and accept things for what they are right now.
It’s time for you to look at yourself and see that you need to do some changing and so does he. Silence is often the best remedy for love to come back again. If you chase him, you will likely get the opposite of what you were hoping for. He may tell you to leave him alone and to not contact him anymore.
Sometimes, you must just say okay and let things be. It’s never easy to just let something rest. However, you will come to see that doing this will allow you to just allow life to happen. Let the universe have its way with you and take control on your own. Take it easy and learn to go after what you feel will work out best for you. It’s all about trying and relaxing for now.