Are you dating someone that your family is often criticizing? There is nothing worse than feeling like your family doesn’t like the man that you have chosen to be with. Most likely, your family doesn’t like your boyfriend because of something that you have told them about him. Often, we create our own drama. Remember, everything negative that you have told your family about him, they remember. Even though you may forgive and forget, your family is often going to hold it against him forever.
Many women make the mistake of telling their families everything negative that happens in their romantic relationship. They often feel that they want support from their family members when something goes wrong. If you feel that he is ignoring you or not treating you right, you often run to your family for a shoulder to cry on. However, is that the best way to handle problems in the relationship?
You May Be the Cause of Why Your Family Hates Him
The moment that you start complaining about how he is hurting you, your family will come to your defense. He can be the best guy in the world and yet your family won’t be able to see it because of the things that you have told them.
He is most likely respectful to your family. For the most part, he respects you in front of them. He knows that he has a lot on his plate in order to show them that he is a good man for you. However, he will often feel like you don’t want to be together with him if he hears that you are trashing him to your family.
Can You Reverse This?
Yes, you can reverse your family from hating your boyfriend if you stop telling them your relationship business. If you have a problem with him, don’t run to your family asking them to listen to your relationship problems. Instead, call a pastor, counselor or phone psychic. I wouldn’t even call a friend because they will hate him as well. Pastors, counselors and phone psychics are people that you will never have as a part of your life. They are safe people to turn to because they will encourage you to make good choices, but you won’t have to worry about them hating your boyfriend.
The good thing about talking to people outside of your loved ones is that you don’t have to worry about them passing judgment on your relationship. You simply know that they are helping you, but they won’t be able to gossip about your relationship to others in your family and friends. You will feel like they are giving you good advice.
Over time, the less that you tell your family and friends about your relationship, the better. In order to have more peace in your relationship, you are going to have to tell your family positive things about your boyfriend. Tell them why you love him so much. Tell your family the positive things that he does. Does he plan on marrying you? Is he a good financial provider? What is he giving to you that causes you to have love? This is the kind of information that they need to know about.
Unfortunately, our family ties are strong, and our families want to come and protect us. They want a miracle man to happen for you. You know, a guy that is perfect. However, “Prince Charming” doesn’t exist. Any man that you are involved with is going to have a problem that you will need to work out with him.
If you love him, its for a good reason. They need to know why. When you stop complaining about him, they will grow to like him again because they will assume that he is changing or has not been doing anything wrong lately. They will get the message that you do love him and that everything is moving along just fine.
It’s important to let them know that you are happy together with him. If there are major problems in your relationship, then you must decide on your own whether you need to be together with him in the future. You should already know by now whether he is worth your time. Please don’t tell me that you are only keeping him around because you are lonely or because he is hot and great in bed. Unfortunately, those reasons are often a recipe for a disaster relationship. If you follow your heart and see that there is room for growth, you can make the relationship become much more impactful over time.
It may be time for you to look at your life and feel like you can overcome your obstacles. It’s good to have a sit-down talk with him and tell him what is on your mind. Let him see that you are not always going to trash him. You need to tell him that you don’t like a lot of the things that he has done to you before in the past, but that you need to not say negative things about him to your family.
You don’t want to get to the point that he doesn’t even want to be around your family because there is tension in the room every time that they see him. this will drive a wedge between your family and your life partner. It’s not going to be easy to be with someone that doesn’t want to forgive and forget either.
It’s best to let your man know that you are willing to start over again and keep your relationship problems between one another. Ask him to do the same. Relationships tend to last when couples can resolve their own problems without the help of family and friends.
As you can see, its not to late to change. You have the power to make things right again and you will if you put your mind to it. You will soon see change after a few months.