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Can Sleeping Around with Multiple Lovers Destroy You in 20 Years?

Does The Mind Work a Lot Like a Computer When You Sleep Around?

Scientist say that our minds are a lot like a computer.  We can store information throughout our entire lives and our brain processes information faster than any computer that was ever built.  The mind can remember something that happened when you were only 5 years old. You could recall the memory in detail if you wanted to. 

However, there is a downside of our brain remember everything.  We are only going to talk about a few examples here.  However, its important to note that you are going to have to make some serious life choices when you are in your childhood, teens, twenties and thirties. The choices that you make in these times are going to give you memories that will last a lifetime. 

Is Life About Your Choices?

As you walk through life, you will have to make choices in love.  You will have to decide on what will work for you and what won’t.  Any choice that you make right now will have a lasting pro or con in your life 20 years from now. 

Adults will often say that when they were a child or teenager, they made some pretty bad choices.  You may have heard the expression, “I was just young and stupid and didn’t know what I was doing?”  However, is this true? 

I have learned that throughout life and at any age, we learn what not to do next time.  Even if you are 13 years old, you will realize that life is a learning experience. As you walk through life, you have a conscience. This conscience will be within you no matter how old or young you are. Whatever life choices you make will either make you feel proud of yourself or guilty.  Nobody is exempt from this guilt. Nobody cannot feel guilty about something that they did at any age. 

Are We Capable of Lying at Any Age?

If you are a child and want to desperately have a chocolate chip cookie, you may see no reason as to why you shouldn’t eat it. However, if your mother tells you not to eat it because it will spoil your dinner, the child will become angry.  After all, the child is not getting their way. 

They feel that they can handle dinner and a chocolate chip cookie. In their minds, they rationalize that they can have both.  Their mother tells them to not touch the cookies until after dinner. 

However, 10 minutes goes by and the child’s mother walks out of the room where the cookies are.  The child looks at this as an opportunity to get the cookie because she is not around. The child is already thinking through the steps of lying, deception and getting what they want because they feel that they can get away with it if the mother is not in the room. 

Let’s say that the child does go for it and eats the cookie.  The child feels happy because they got what they wanted.  They made a life choice.  The child could make the choice and deceiving their parent. 

When the parent comes back into the room, she sits her child down and says, “We can have dinner now.”  After dinner, the mother says to the child, “You were so good today because you listened to me and didn’t have the cookie before dinner. 

Now as a reward for your good behavior, I want to take you out for ice cream.” In guilt and shame, the child confesses to the mother that they ate the cookie when she was out of the room. The child now shows that they can lie, owning up to the truth, feeling guilt and happiness after telling the truth. 

As you can see, we are not just “young and stupid.” Instead, we can make life choices and our choices will leave an imprint in our minds forever.  This is because all human beings can make life choices at any age.  Our life choices will either make us feel proud of what we have done or ashamed. 

How Sleeping Around Destroys the Soul

As you can see, our mind will remember everything that we do. As we age, the mind is left with memories of all the life choices that we have made.  Every person that you ever slept with will leave a dent in your soul. 

You will be able to recall the memory of when the two of you got together in order to have a romantic encounter.  You will remember the love and lust that you felt.  You will even remember if they “up and left you” without even saying goodbye.  You may remember them ghosting you or simply not wanting you at all.

In today’s world, its not uncommon to hear of someone sleeping with a different person every single week.  Yes, many men and women are going through lovers like they are eating bag or potato chips. With dating apps like Tinder, its easy to look through your phone and find someone to “hookup” with whenever you get in the mood. 

It’s important to know that you may think now that you are going to experience an exciting time. It will be exciting in the moment. However, after the encounter, this person may never want to see you again. You will remember it through.  Eventually, this will catch up to your conscience. Eventually, you will come to feel dirty and unclean.  You will begin to feel like you have been doing something wrong. 

In many ways, you will feel trapped and feel used.  Over time, this pattern will make you feel like nobody wants you. You will have your heart torn in many pieces. Many parts of you will feel connected to someone that you slept with. You may feel that you still want that person and yet they don’t even care about you or if you even exist anymore. That can be devastating. 

The 21st century is showing us what human beings can succumb to if they don’t get what they want.  We are living in a fast-paced world. Most men and women today believe if they are not getting what they want immediately, move on to the next person. Keep on sleeping around with someone week after week.

Most reality television shows are not showing the downside of what people feel like 20 years later after they have slept around.  We are only seeing people not talking about it. 

Most reality shows are letting people see the fun side of a hookup. A woman on a reality show may say that she hooked up with a hot guy last night and now she doesn’t know what happened to him.  Guys are going through the same thing. 

However, over time, this kind of living will make you feel like you don’t want that anymore. The reason for this is because human beings are built to want love, a lifelong companion and commitment. However, this kind of connection is diminishing slowly in society today. 

In today’s world, many men and women feel that sleeping around is a lot easier. You don’t have to deal with feelings or messy arguments. However, is this good? 

As we can see, most people today are not happy in their romantic lives. Most men and women say that they see most of society just wanting a hookup and no love.  The world today is a like the Old Testament story of Sodom and Gomorrah.  These cities were all about doing whatever you felt like and going after what you felt was good. 

Most men and women in their 30’s and 40’s are dealing with a lot of shame and guilt from the life choices that they made before these ages.  As you grow older, you tend to look back on your life more. You tend to focus on the good and bad choices.  However, the memories of having multiple lovers doesn’t make young men and women feel good about what they chose by having multiple lovers. 

The problem that we are having today is that many men and women in their 30’s and 40’s are having trouble dealing with anger.  They are often recalling memories of their past lovers and feeling like nobody ever really wanted them.  They are often feeling like they were just used for a booty call.  Many men and women feel like they got ghosted after a person told them how hot they were.  They may have been promised a relationship if they would only sleep with the other person. 

Lies and deception seem to be a big part of the 21st century.  As a psychic, I talk to thousands of people every single year on the phone and online chat.  I can tell you that the dating world is a mess today. 

We are now beginning to see the results of the “hookups” that happened 20 years ago for people. These hookups are often hard for people to look back on. 

It’s even harder because many 30 and 40 something year old are finding themselves single.  It is estimated that by the year 2050, only 30% of people will choose marriage or long-term relationship.  The rest of society will choose one-night stands and short-term relationships that end in just a few months. 

The problem with this is that our memories get in the way.  When you love someone, that is a real emotion.  When someone doesn’t love you back, this hurt. 

We are learning that sleeping around is not just about sleeping around.  In fact, you will remember every encounter that you had with someone and it will be hard to forget.  The problem with our minds is that we can feel deep pain about something that we did or something that was done to us years ago. 

Can Sleeping Around with Multiple Lovers Destroy You in 20 Years?

Have you ever met a real nasty senior citizen?  You know, the kind that never has anything nice to say?  You must wonder what they are thinking about all day to make them that miserable. You will come to see that it is because of the life choices that they made. 

It’s obviously affecting them because as you age, you tend to not work a nine to five job anymore. You have all the time in the world to sit around and think about what you did to other people and what they did to you as well.  These memories can be haunting.

It’s important to do as less h arm to your life as you possibly can.  The less bad life choices that you make today, the better you will feel about yourself 20 years from now. 

The psychic hotline is flooded with phone calls from men and women complaining about their love lives. Many of the calls that come in are full of grief-stricken people that are heartbroken over years of getting used and them choosing to sleep around with multiple lovers. 

As you get older in life and if you don’t change your ways, you will remember everything that you have ever done and will often feel ashamed and guilty.  You can stop this from happening to your life if you start working on the changes now. 

If you begin to change your ways and decide to not sleep around, you may be shocked at how fast your mind begins to think about the good choices that you have made in the past. 

Remember, the conscience doesn’t believe in being young and stupid.  It believes in you knowing what you are doing at the time and making a choice as to take the right or wrong action. 

Even the Kid bully in elementary school will remember forever that he bullied other kids when he was in elementary school when he is 40 years old.  If you lied and cheated on someone while you were in junior high school, you will never forget that. Its because our conscience has no age.  It simply remembers that we chose to do the wrong or right thing.  It also reminds us of anything wrong that was done to us. 

Unfortunately, our poor life choices or the bad that was done to us can destroy us through our actions of taking drugs, alcohol or suicide. 

If you remember from the New Testament of the Holy Bible, Judas Iscariot hung himself after he betrayed Jesus.  His guilt ate at his soul.  Gia Allemand from the show, The Bachelor also committed suicide.  When I first heard about her suicide, the first thought that came to my mind was that she probably did it because her heart had been broken to many times by men that she thought would want to be together with her. 

I thought that she probably had a long history of hopping from one lover to the next.  Eventually, you will feel like giving up if this keeps on happening to you repeatedly.  She was just 29 years old.  It makes sense to me from a spiritual perspective that when someone chooses to take their own life, they are in pain over something that they did or was done to them. 

Hopefully, you will come to see that your actions will have consequences throughout the rest of your life. Making the right choice today can keep you from remember what you have done 20 years from now.