Double dates are usually essential to check the compatibility of your partner, when he/she is around other people. The private space of a couple on a date can in two ways-either be romantic, happy and fun to be on (especially when your partner is your best friend) or it can be the worst experience that anyone can ever expect. It can start and end with fights and arguments.
Going out on a double date when you have bonding issues seems like you are losing your independence to share things. You should have fun and enjoy your time together.
In the first case a double date may cause loss of privacy of the couple. In the second case, double dates give many advantages to the unmatched couple as it may avoid their arguments, troubles and stress caused due to those arguments and may improve their bonding in some way or the other.
Amongst all the pros and cons of going out on a double date, if you finally choose to do so, there are some manners and decorum that you are obliged to follow.
You can’t just be chilling out when you are with other people. This is to be followed by both men and women. If you choose to double date with a couple from your group or either person from your group, it becomes easy to be around them and both of the couples enjoy each other’s company.
When on a double date, you need to make sure that you always perform group activities and none of you feel neglected or bored for being on the date.
Here are some ways in which you can make your double date interesting and worth remembering :
- Be Considerate Towards Your Love Interest
Usually when you go out on a date with your boyfriend/girlfriend, you choose to enjoy your time to the fullest. In that attempt, you usually get a little closer to your partner. When out on a double date, you will have to take special care about not over-displaying affection between you and your partner as it can make the other couple a little bit uncomfortable. Especially when the other couple is having a bad or stressed out time in their relationship.
Your display of affection could make them nervous or even jealous. Being considerate with your partner on a double date is the most important decorum to be followed. It is important because everyone may not have the same habits and behaviour as of you. Some may feel uncomfortable and awkward to be around someone who is too cosy with their partner publicly.
Everyone could not freely accept it and they may even feel insulted if they are short-tempered type of people. Its better to behave properly and not become too cosy with your partner when you are out on a double date.
- Do Not Neglect or Side-Line Anyone
When on a double date, keep in mind the following things:
- Talk with everyone present
at the table.
- Share your life or stories with everyone and not just with your partner.
- Get to know their stories and fun and sad moments too.
- Always take part in active interaction.
If you follow these things in your date, then none of you will ever get neglected or side-line and everyone will get equal opportunity to share their feeling, happy moments, sad moments, different experiences etc. That will represent your personality as gentle, attractive and communicable. People will easily be able to connect with you about their feelings and will surely like to hangout with you more often. This will also make your double date go smooth.
For example : Let us say if 2 couples go out on a double date at a fine music concert. The women in the relationship are best friends. They reach the designated place at the right time and wait for their partners to come along. However, the guys didn’t arrive for hours. After all the texting and calling is done, the women realize that the guys were spending some time leaving them alone. This scenario is not at all supportive and is not supposed to happen on a double date. Everyone should get an equal priority and importance.
This example tells us that we should be alert and particular when we are deciding to go out on a double date. If you do not do so, it would leave a very bad impression in other people’s minds about you and your partner forever.
- Not to Bring Out Problematic Topics
This is also one of the most important rules or a ways to make your double date go smooth and happy. If as a couple you have some issues or arguments between the two of you, make sure that it does not disturb the atmosphere of a date. In a double date, you are supposed to enjoy it by yourself and let others enjoy it too. You and your partner are not expected to fight or argue on a non-negotiable or never ending topic.
You should avoid being in a dispute or an argument with your partner or even the other couple. That usually disturbs the whole need of the date and makes everyone uncomfortable upon being present over there. Hence, never utter a word about a subject which has already been of dispute, on a double date.
- Sharing Relationship Problems and Giving Advise
When on a double date, you can share problems of your relationship with each other. When with your best friend on a double date, you can share all your relationship problems with each other and try to find out a solution too.
Improving your bond with your partner is one of the most important advantages of going out on a double date. In such dates, you get to spend more time with your partner and get to know more about each other.
According to research, going on a double date has proved to be more stronger and effective in improving couple bonds than going out on a single date. A double date leads to making new friends or getting even more closer to your old friends. It is proved that the couples who want their relationship to become stronger and solid, should have some friends in common. This improves their compatibility and makes their bond stronger than before. If you want to improve your chemistry and bonding, you can definitely try a double date.
- Watch What You Speak
When out on a double date, you should always watch your words while speaking, as your words once said that it can never be taken back. You should always make sure that your words never hurt other people as they may judge you by your words.
Behaving rude or being disconnected with them may put you and your partner in grave trouble.
You should behave politely and decently with everyone present there and you should actively participate in all the conversations (especially funny ones), crack jokes and show-off your sense of humour & talent wherever necessary. This makes you & your personality look more attractive to them & they would enjoy your company and will to be around you.
Your personality should be showcased as ‘The Best Person to be with’. So that no one has left with any room to judge you with any of your flaws and faults. Your personality should showcase your choice and people should consider themselves lucky for choosing you in their lives.
- Everyone’s Suggestion Does Matter
When you decide about plans for going oput on a double date, you should always remember to consider everyone’s suggestion equally. Everyone should be involved in the discussion of the location, menu and the other factors that are involved in the double date.
Suppose that you are deciding on going out on a double date with your friend and his/her partner. You and your partner should decide for a movie and buy the tickets. If your friend or his/her partner does not want to go on that movie, then 2 things would happen in that situation :
- They may disagree with you and cancel the double date.
- They may forcefully and unintentionally come with you, but then get bored.
Up to an extent, the first one is much better than the second one as in the first one. At least they would deny going out with you. If they forcefully and unintentionally go with you (as in the second case), then that would be worse as none of you will be able to enjoy properly and to the fullest.
It is better to give everyone’s suggestion a thought and agree on one thing that is comfortable and enjoying for everyone.
7) Last Review, Before Starting
As it is always said that ‘Precaution is better than the Cure’, so you should also take all the precautionary measures so that your double date goes perfect and as planned and does not fail or get spoiled due to any reason. Check on all your date night plans for one last time and make sure everything is perfect and as planned.
This will reduce your nervousness and increase your confidence to face the people you are going out on a double date with. This will also show a good impact on your personality as everyone likes to be around someone who organizes everything perfectly and is a stress-free about meeting and going on a date with other people.
A happy and tension free personality always attracts people and makes them think of you twice. If you have booked a restaurant for your double date, confirm your checking once. If you have planned to go for a movie or concert, check and confirm the show details properly. If you have planned a road trip, check properly whether all the arrangements are done well or not. It is better at times to be more conscious than to regret being lethargic afterwards.
Choosing your best friend and his/her partner to go on a double date with :
If you decide to go out on a double date with your best friend and his/her love interest, then there are many pros and cons to it.
The pros may be that you will definitely enjoy each other’s company and will not have to just to just pass your time by fooling around.
You can also make yourself and your friend’s partner grow close. They may even become best friend as you both are. You never know, they may become more close than you are. One more advantage is that your best friend may also connect with your partner and become close to them. Same goes with you and your best friend’s partner.
But there are also some cons of this. If you and your best friend are going out on a double date with your respective partner and you and your best friend’s partner do not know each other before, then the chances are that you might judge each other’s partners, which in turn may cause rift in your friendship.
One more disadvantage is that, if your partner and your best friend’s partner do not match the level of connection, then the whole atmosphere may somehow get disturbed and boring.
Therefore, it is important while going on a double date with your best friend that all of you should have met before at least once and then choose to go out on a date. You are able to reduce the chances of any conflicts or fights that may occur during your date and spoil your mood or atmosphere there.
Therefore, you should always decide wisely whether you are 100% sure of going on a double date with either anyone whom you know or any unknown person. Because, double dating is a big responsibility on the person who decides to prepare the people for the same. If you are the deciding person, you should always be aware of all the consequences and results of going out on a double date and plan your date accordingly with the people whom you are most comfortable with.
You should always take your partner into consideration before and after thinking and before deciding these things so that he/she may also suggests you about what to do and what not to do. This will help you to behave wisely and properly on the date time and avoid any conflicts and arguments that would otherwise take place if you do not know how to behave in front of people. Especially if you are reserved or introvert types of person, then you should definitely first learn how to enjoy people’s company and be with them for longer time. You don’t look aloof in front of them and be able to communicate with them nicely.
Otherwise, your reserved personality may make people doubt your partner’s choice of choosing you. If you don’t want that to happen, then first learn to mix-up with people and then go out on a double date.
While on a double date, you will frequently need to leave your comfort level and compromise in some things that you not at all like. For example, you may have to eat a dish that you don’t like at all, but the other people, that you have gone on a date with, may be loving it. In this case, you will have to adjust at some extent and eat what they wish to eat. This will showcase you as kind and adjusting person which is a good impression. In all, manners, decorum and choices are very important if you choose to go on a double date with other people.