There are different kinds of love in this world, and it can be romantic, platonic or another kind of love. However, the romantic kind of love is the one normally paid most attention to. When we get into a relationship, it’s easy to mistake a platonic love for a romantic one.
In fact, you’d be surprised that you can be compatible with your friends, and the only thing missing is both chemistry and physical intimacy. Have you ever wondered in a relationship as to why you feel comfortable with them, but you just don’t feel the things you should be feeling?
That’s the definition of a platonic love. It’s still as amazing and extraordinary as a romantic love, but without the physical component and the aspects that make it romantic.
When you’re experiencing a platonic love, you feel comfortable with them just as you would with a romantic love. Soulmates aren’t restricted in the romantic sense, but you can also find a soulmate in a friend.
When you have a platonic, it resembles similarities with being in love with someone. For one, you can be your truly self with both romantic and platonic love. The reason why it can be hard to distinguish between the two without the physical aspect is that, we all want someone that knows us and understands us better than anyone- and what better way to find that in a friend.
It’s why people also tend to fall for their best friend, they want to find their forever person in someone who already knows them, in someone there’s clear compatibility. However, not all platonic love crosses over to the romantic side.
For some, it says platonic and they simply can’t imagine anything more than that. It’s easy to fall for a friend or a best friend- if any of us had a choice, it would probably to fall in love with our best friend. However, in falling in love, we don’t have a choice- it just happens unexpectedly and love is remarkable like that.
We think we’re in love with them, when we realize that we can’t be physically intimate with them, In a platonic love, you can’t be attracted to them in a romantic way, but you simply like and appreciate them for who they are.
It’s so easy to mistake a platonic love for a romantic one since they give feelings that you’d also feel when you’re attracted to someone. With a platonic love. you don’t feel as if you’re being judged for mistakes of your past or the things you do.
As mentioned above, you can be your true self in a platonic love. In a world where everyone wants you to be a version of what’s acceptable to them, being yourself is something to be treasured- and something you can find in a platonic love. You can be yourself, and you can be sure that they won’t take this against you and resent you later on.
You also have the liberty of talking about every topic you can think of, and you’ll be sure to get a response. This is probably why it’s easy to turn a platonic love into something more than what it seems.
With a platonic love, you have deep conversations without the fear of saying the wrong thing. When you have that compatibility, you’ll find that it’s easy to mistake it for something more than what it seems.
Do you know that feeling when you’re with your best friend, and they make you feel like you can talk about anything, from your feelings to questions you have in a relationship? When you love someone platonically, they’ll make you feel this secure.
It’s also why they say a friendship is the best foundation for a relationship, because it gives you a strong foundation for a long-lasting relationship. That only risk is that if it gets too platonic, it won’t revolve towards something more romantic.
There’s nothing wrong with having a platonic love. What we feel for our best friendships are platonic and if anything, it’s the most purest and genuine kind of love there is.
Why? There’s no expectation of physical intimacy in the picture, unlike romantic love. With platonic love, they love you exactly as they are, and there’s no pressure to be vulnerable and to be intimate with them. Your friends love you exactly as you are, even with all the messy and dark parts of yourself.
That’s something that a romantic love doesn’t always promise. There’s a deeper commitment in romantic love, but there’s also more pressure in the equation. There’s the expectation that you’re both seeing where it goes from this point on, if it works for the long run or you end up breaking up. With a platonic love, it’s quite low-maintenance.
Even if you don’t communicate with them for weeks when you’ve been too caught up with your work, they’ll still love you for who you are. With or without communication, friendships guarantee that you don’t have to try as hard to make it work- unlike romantic relationships.
You can both simply continue the friendship where you left it, and there’d be no resentment or guilt. It’s one of the reasons why platonic love is what people resort to when they feel they aren’t ready for something more serious. Communication isn’t that essential for friendships to stay in your life, and you shouldn’t go into a romantic relationship when you’re not ready for a romantic relationship.
One of the aspects that makes platonic love stay that way is also the chemistry aspect, as mentioned above. People often think that compatibility is all that’s needed to make a relationship work, but that isn’t true at all. When you say compatibility, it’s the similar values and morals you share with the person. Chemistry, on the other hand, is different. Chemistry is how you mesh with them and the ‘sparks’ you feel in the air when you’re with them.
Chemistry is the way that they make you feel since loving a person is different from being in love with a person. You can love someone, and that’s how a platonic love stays platonic- you never fall in love with them and you never get attracted to them.
One of the aspects included in chemistry is your sexual chemistry. It’s how good you are together in the physical aspect, and that’s what a platonic love will never have. Of course, you’ll never be physically intimate with a friend as you are with a significant other.
It isn’t personal, but it’s just the nature of the relationship. To trigger that physical aspect, you need to be attracted to them. If you see someone platonically, attraction just isn’t going to come out of nowhere.
With a platonic love, no matter who comes and goes in your life, they’ll always be there for you no matter what. In romantic relationships, nothing is ever guaranteed and things can end, just like that.
Friendships tend to be stronger than relationships which is why friendships make the best foundation before starting a relationship with someone. If you love someone in a platonic manner, this is already a stable ground if ever you do fall in love with them.
A platonic love ensures that you become the best version of yourself. Even if you can also do this in relationships, you don’t have to fear anything in friendships. Romantic relationships tend to give more anxiety in the equation than a friendship does, for obvious stated reasons. With this being said, you don’t have to constantly walk on eggshells in a friendship, unlike a relationship.
A platonic love lets you be your raw and natural self, without being what someone expects you to be. A platonic love also ensures that they don’t have to make a project out of you and vice versa. With a friend, they don’t have to change or fix you in a way they want. They accept and love you just as you are.
In conclusion, if you want to start a relationship, it’s still the best idea to start with a platonic love as a foundation. From here, you’ll be able to see if you can have chemistry and physical intimacy with that person. There’s nothing wrong with having platonic love, after all.
If it doesn’t work out, at least you gain a strong friendship out of it eitherway. If it does work out, you end up having a romantic relationship with the strongest possible foundation and it won’t just crumble and end, just like that. Platonic love is one of the purest and most unconditional forms of love that exists, because it doesn’t ask for anything in return.
When you love someone platonically, you admire them exactly for who they are and you don’t attempt to change them into your expectations. It’s why, when you aren’t ready for a relationship, it’s best to first build a platonic love with them. That way, there’s no pressure and you get to know them in a better light.