Love is the most natural and most beautiful thing in the world, and while it can turn into a series of painful events, there is so much beauty in love someone. When you love someone, it isn’t just butterflies in your stomach, or it doesn’t complete you.
Love isn’t the magic answer to solving all your problems, but love is what makes life extraordinary and distinct. However, we don’t always know how to say ‘I love you with all my heart.’
Even when words come natural to you, sometimes words just aren’t enough to show that kind of love. Most often than not, we end up saying those words through our actions.
Most often that not, it’s the words unsaid that have more impact than the words said. With this being said, the following is how to say I love you with all my heart.
Should You Speak Through Mundane Actions?
People say I love you every day, in different ways we never expect. Sometimes, people say they love you when they’re giving you the last piece of chocolate, or when they give you a sweater to keep you warm.
People say I love you as they kiss you before leaving work, or when they open the door for you as you enter. It takes doesn’t take a grand gesture to show someone you love them.
The thing about words is that it’s sweet, but what proves the sincerity and honestly behind the words is the actions you choose to back it up with. Words are meaningless if you don’t back it up with actions, just like ‘I love you’ is meaningless if you don’t do something to prove it to the person.
Of course, it’s easy to say you love someone, but if you’re selfish towards that person- then do you really love them? With mundane actions, you prove that love and show it, even if it’s something as ordinary and mundane as cooking them breakfast.
Through Keeping Your Word
You know what they say, that promises are meant to be broken. If you love someone, even if promises are meant to be broken, you try your best not to break your word. If say you’re going to do something, and you end up failing to keep that promise, the reliability behind your words become less and less- until they stop believing in the words you say. By keeping your word, it’s bigger than saying yo love them with the entirety of your heart.
Instead, it’s a dedication and commitment to choose to do what you promised to do- even when you don’t feel like it. You know the impact of words and of promises and even if we say that actions speak louder than words, words still mean a significant thing.
Break your word and you might as well have broken their trust in the process. If you already show them you love them through your actions, the next thing to do is keep your words and your promises.
If you find that you can’t, then don’t say you’re going to do it. Instead, it’s much better if you say it instead of making false promises.
Through Their Love Language
The general idea is that everyone different love languages, and what’s yours can be different to someone else. By assuming they have the same love language as you, you’re failing to love them in the way they want to.
For all you know, they aren’t a words of affirmation person, but you keep smothering them with compliments and reassuring words. By being aware of their love language, you’d know how to express ‘I love you’ in a manner that would stick with them.
For instance, if their love language is quality time, simply spending time with them and putting down your phone is the same as saying you love them and appreciate how they make time for you.
Love is honestly just about the simple things, and the awareness of being able to appreciate these things. You may not understand the idea of love languages, but basically there are 5 love languages that exists: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gift giving and acts of service, By being aware of the love language they have the most, you have the ability to understand their needs properly.
Through Constantly Growing
If anything, growth shows that you value both yourself and the relationship. By always pushing yourself to be the best version of yourself, then you’re constantly evolving and changing.
By doing this, you’re showing them that you’re a driven and motivated person and through this, you’ll encourage one another to become the best version of yourselves.
A relationship thrives when both parties are driven towards becoming better, and that’s how doing this says you love them. Love isn’t based on anything selfish, and the motive of growth is to not only become better for yourself, but to inspire them as well.
Through becoming better, you grow both individually and together. Out of this entire list, this may be the one that doesn’t make much sense because how do you show someone you love them through growing?
However, this is accurate. Relationships are about growing and evolving into better versions of yourselves, as the relationship progresses and the love grows, If you stay stagnant, are you really the best for each other?
Through Changed Behavior
This is one of the essential ways to say you love someone. This is under the category of actions, however this is different because changed behavior is only necessary when conflict or arguments arise in the relationship.
Sorry loses its meaning overtime and there’s going to come a point when they stop believing in your apologies, and it becomes both meaningless and unreliable. In situations like this, nothing screams both sorry and I love you than changed behavior.
It’s harder than it sounds, but it’s the purest form of apology that you can do. With changed behavior, you’re telling them that you’re sorry you hurt them the way that you did, that you love them with your entire heart, and you want to change for the better for both yourself and them.
It’s through changed behavior that they’ll start to believe in your apologies again. After all, sorry screams a little of manipulation in it and unless you’re changing something in your behavior, sorry seems meaningless- no matter the conflict or argument.
Another form of saying you love them is acceptance. You have to come to terms with the idea that your relationship is constantly growing and evolving, and some of those changes may be uncomfortable- or even painful to you.
You need to accept that change may hurt and to make the relationship last, if you truly love them, you have to flow with the changes that occur. Whether these are good changes or bad, remember that darkness doesn’t last and love overpowers any amount of darkness that may come in a relationship.
Love is stronger than fear or any other negative emotions that may occur, and through accepting the way things are, you’d be able to love them the way they are. Even if things get challenging and frustrating in the long run, acceptance is the way to love someone exactly as they are- not as who they’re pretending to be. After all, relationships are about finding that one person you can be your complete vulnerable and raw self.
Through Patience and Understanding
No matter how much you say that it’s easy to become selfless and patient, the truth is the opposite. It isn’t in our nature to love in this manner, but patience and understanding is how you show someone you love them.
By taking into consideration their needs first above your own, this is what unconditional love is all about- the kind of love we’re all aspiring to integrate in our relationship. It’s not easy to put someone else above our own. In reality, it’s harder than how it’s portrayed in the media. However, this is what love is all about.
Whether in conflict, or when things don’t go as planned, or when darkness happens, this is where patience and understanding comes in the picture. When you’re patient with them, it’s like you reminding them that it’s okay to have not everything figured out, but it’ll get better in time.
You act as the light and hope in moments of confusion, overwhelming darkness and hopelessness. This is why selflessness, patience and understanding is how you show you love them.
At the end of the day, these are just some of the ways you can tell someone you love them. Love isn’t always said in words, but it’s often about virtues, motives, intentions and actions.
Love is a beautiful combination of all of these– and it’s what makes love such a distinctive emotion. It’s flowing as you grow with the person, and showing them you love them- as best as you can. Not in your own definition, but in what you know reassures them of the love you have for them.