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How Do You Date A Guy With PTSD?

How Do You Date A Guy With PTSD?

A relationship is a powerful aspect in one’s life as whom you choose to share experiences with can shape your life and the ways you treat each other.

However, if you come to know that the guy you dating is suffering from PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder then what will be your reaction? The information provided in this write-up will help you in making up your mind while dating someone with PTSD.

Can Someone With PTSD Have A Relationship?

A relationship can be difficult with the symptoms of PTSD or post-traumatic stress disorder. For many people suffering from PTSD and having problems with closeness, and trust it becomes difficult to be in a healthy relationship with other people. But they can be in healthy relationships with the guidance and treatment of a professional therapist as well as social support.

The ways of relationships for a person with PTSD can be improved depending upon his symptoms. One cannot be in a healthy relationship due to some of the symptoms of this disorder.

Some of the symptoms that can restrain you from a relationship may include staying away from the circumstances related to the trauma, nightmares or flashes of the trauma, an increase in negative feelings and thoughts as well as feeling irritable or nervous.

These different types of symptoms can show up in different ways. For example, an individual with PTSD does not want to spend time with his family and friends, and experience or sound suddenly generates a memory, starts avoiding certain places, becomes angry all of a sudden, or has a problem in trusting others, etc. Experiencing such problems in day-to-day life can make a relationship difficult.

But, along with the guidance of professional treatment and consistent support from society, a relationship can help in improving the condition of the person suffering from PTSD.

Can PTSD Cause Anger?

Most of the survivors from traumatic conditions mainly respond to those conditions through their anger. Most of the humans mainly respond in this way as it helps them in managing the stresses in their life as it gives them the energy to block or face the problem more efficiently.

But for people who are suffering from PTSD due to their traumatic experiences, anger can cause major issues in their relationships.

Anger is a common response to trauma because they think that they can survive more effectively by showing a high level of anger for those situations.

A person with PTSD can also shift his focus from his problems by showing his anger for the traumatic conditions. The situations that have victimized you or some unfair events you have met with are usually responded through anger.

It has been revealed through various studies that if you have been deceived by others then anger can be the most common reaction from you. It is most commonly experienced with people with post-traumatic disorder caned by violence or exploitation.

The ways of managing emotions of the survivor can be affected by the shock or trauma of abuse in early childhood. In such conditions, a sudden explosion of emotions will frequently be seen in the form of rage and anger. 

But after a trauma, this anger can become a problem as most people with PTSD respond to any threatening situation through their anger. It also helps them in getting rid of all their stresses.

One with this disorder will react to any stressing situation with the full force of anger as if it is going to threatening him or his entire life.

Can A Person With PTSD Be Violent?

Though people with PTSD are not hazardous but their association with this disorder can increase the risk of becoming violent at any time. However, most of the non-veterans and veterans have been found involved in a violent activity until now.

The chances of violent behavior from a PTSD affected person can decrease in association with certain other factors like misuse of drug or alcohol, younger age, or some other type of psychiatric disorder.

In fact, you must understand how violence can be defined. If someone is threatened with physical harm or physically attacked to harm him then it can be termed as violence. Forcing or threatening someone physically to use a knife or gun or to have sex or beating someone can be an example of violence.

According to various study reports, while discussing violence caused by people with PTSD one must clearly know what can be termed as violence. Sometimes, the aggressions of milder range like threatening to throw away, pushing someone, or slapping him are also considered as violence.

Likewise, sometimes criminal activities can also be considered as violent activities even though the violence has not been reported to be committed in most of the criminal activities throughout the world. In this way, various types of violent behavior have been wrongly included in the list of the violence committed by people with PTSD.

Does PTSD Ever Go Away?

The duration and intensity of PTSD can depend on various factors as in most of the conditions of mental health. The chances of getting rid of PTSD can depend on the severity and type of trauma experienced by the affected person as well as his response to the treatment provided to him.

According to various reports, more than 40% of patients receiving SNRI and SSRI medications and over 50% receiving therapy based on their trauma have not shown any symptoms of PTSD after taking treatment for three months but its effect can remain and linger on even after completing the treatment.

According to experts, actually, the symptoms of PTSD rarely go away. The main reason behind it can be the deep physiological and psychological reaction of the sufferer to the traumatic conditions. The effect of a traumatic situation cannot be removed from the mind of the patient completely but it can be reduced.

So PTSD can never go away but its symptoms can be reduced effectively with the help of a treatment based on the evidence of trauma. However, they can remain in an inactive condition in the mind of the patient for many years.

The possibility of activating these symptoms can increase any time in the future due to similar traumatic situations. So, a PTSD patient will have to live and grow with this health condition throughout his life.

Does PTSD Change Your Personality?

Though trauma is a common event but every trauma cannot cause a symptom of PSTD to the survivor. Still, a large number of people are reported to be suffering from PTSD due to their exposure to extremely traumatic situations. In chronic cases of post-traumatic stress disorder changes in the functioning of the sufferers have been seen.

Problems in psychological functioning can develop in people who have been exposed to awfully cruel and stressful events regardless of their education and gender. For instance, 45 years old retired, divorced, and highly educated person and father of two children who lives with his parents was suffering form PRSD for more than 20 years.

He was exposed to very harsh and stressful conditions during the war when he lost his fellow soldiers and was tortured in captivity. Similarly, a 50 years old highly educated, and married lady who has two children and works as a professor of arts was suffering from this disorder for six years when her son died due to a sudden injury.

So the risk of changes in personality due to PTSD can increase after intense stress caused by serious social and personal traumatic incidents.

Does PTSD Get Worse With Age?

The memories of their experiences at the time of war can upset many Veterans even after so many years of their retirement. Your experiences in the military can affect your life even today even if you have served many years back and today you are an old Veteran.

It has been reported by many veterans that they have been suffering from the symptoms of PTSD even after more than 50 years of their experiences during the war.

Some of the symptoms of this disorder may include feeling or having a nightmare as if you are facing the same event again, become worried easily, lose your interest in any kind of activity, or trying to avoid the circumstance that refreshes the event in your memory.

These symptoms of PTSD can increase with age due to various reasons like:

  • You may feel worsening of the symptoms after being retired from the job as you are unable to distract your mind from your memories as well as have a lot of time to think about those stressful situations.

  • The symptoms of PTSD can also increase with age due to feeling weak due to your medical conditions as you do not find yourself strong enough to face such situations.

  • Your memories can come back and worsen your PTSD symptoms after watching the scenes of recent wars or any terrible news on the television.

  • The symptoms of PTSD can also deteriorate if you stop using certain substances including alcohol in old age without finding a good substitute to manage your stress if you have ever used such things for this purpose.