Is Small Talk Flirting?
Sometimes, small talk is flirting. If you have a crush on someone at school or at work, creating small conversations often helps you to get closer to someone and open conversation.
You may say something like, “Have you seen the Bachelor show last night? Did you notice how hot it is getting? Have you seen any good movies lately?”
Small talk often opens a door into a much bigger conversation if the other person is interested in speaking with you. Small talk is often good for just being friendly, attracting new friendships and flirting.
You can do small talk in a social gathering environment. This can be in a bar, club, or social gathering at a party. When you do this, you open a door for someone to feel more connected to you.
What Are Examples of Small Talk?
If you are thinking about making small talk with someone, here are a few examples that are helpful:
Do you come here often?
Would you happen to know if the debate is on tonight?
Have you noticed that people are shopping in here more often than usual?
Have you noticed that it has gotten colder?
Can you believe that I got my stimulus check today?
How Do You Make Small Talk?
If you are interested in making small talk with someone, it can be stressful. Your worst fear is rejection. You may be asking yourself, “What if they don’t want to talk to me? What if I am not their type? What if they will think that I am weird for just striking up a conversation with a stranger?
Small talk can only happen if you put in the effort. Small talk is fun because it allows you to connect with people that you normally would not be able to connect with. You get to see what a person’s personality all is about. Creating small talk with someone helps you to improve your conversation skills.
Small talk takes practice. It is important for you to approach people randomly that you want to connect with. Strike up a conversation with them. If you get rejected, it is okay. Practice for the next time. Eventually, you will find someone that wants to connect with you and have small talk back.
You can also practice small talk if you take public transportation. Often, there is someone around you that you can ask about the weather or when the next bus/train is coming. In this way, you begin to make new friends and even attract someone to you if you are looking for a date.
Why Small Talk Is Important?
Small talk is important because it creates social bonding. We live in a more robotic society where most people are looking at their cell phone throughout the day. Small talk is not as easy as it was a generation ago. Today, most people look at their cell phone when they are waiting for food, public transportation, cashing out at the grocery store and much more.
It is not easy to strike up a conversation with someone, but necessary if we are going to ever have a society that practices courtesy, respect and bonding. Many people are unhappy today because they miss small talk. Today, small talk is often done on social media websites like Facebook and Instagram. However, talking to someone in person feels different and allows you to get a real reaction. People often hide behind their computer on social media and you may never know for sure if the person that you are connecting with is legitimate.
You also create self-confidence. It takes gut to talk to a random stranger. However, your confidence builds when you do this because you realize that there are people in the world today that want to get to know you. You never know who you may be making small talk with. Perhaps you need a job and the person that you are making small talk with is a manager of a company that is hiring people. Wouldn’t you say that is a good person to have a small talk with?
Why Do I Hate Small Talk?
If you hate small talk, you are not alone. At least 50% of the population feels that small talk is a waste of time. They often feel that small talk is a waste of time because you will more than likely never speak to that person again. Some people wonder if small talk is even worth it. After all, just saying a few words and then leaving the conversation does not really amount to much.
However, some small talk conversations have led to friendships that lasted a lifetime. You may never know for sure who you are talking to and therefore, you may reconsider hating small talk. Maybe it is not as bad as you think.
What is a Good Conversation?
A good conversation happens when you least expect. When you start off with small talk and it escalates into a long conversation, it is rather good. This means that the person that you are chatting with wants to have a deeper connection with you.
You may find that your small talk conversation has opened the door to you and someone else sharing someone in common. It is never easy to talk with someone about your true thoughts, feelings, and emotions. It is not everyday that we see small talk working. Sometimes, a conversation can lead us into believing in ourselves and what we see happening in the future.
If you are like me, you enjoy a deeper and more meaningful conversation. When you reach this level, you should reward yourself. You have made your small talks interesting enough for someone to want to connect with you on multiple levels.
Make sure that you get someone’s personal information when you have a good conversation. This person will often make a good friend or even someone perfect for dating. You will find that your small talks open doors for deeper bonding.
Is It Weird To Not Talk?
Talking is an art. In today’s world, it is becoming more common for people not to talk. After all, most men and women today would rather use a mobile device to send a text message or to write something in social media. A lot of people today have social anxiety because they are used to being on a computer device.
We are becoming a society that is fearful of speaking their mind. Most people today are afraid to talk because they fear rejection. Some people may see you as being quiet. There is nothing wrong with being quiet and shy. In fact, this kind of personality adds balance to the population. Imagine if we were all extroverts talking all the time. Nobody would have a chance to get a word in.
Why Do Introverts Not Talk?
Introverts often do not talk because they feel like they have an active inner world. Many introverts grew up as a loner or spent more time alone playing video games and reading books. Their world because more about themselves and not about other people.
Many introverts do not talk because they fear rejection. Somewhere along the way in their life, they felt rejected by a person(s). Perhaps they were trying to reach out to someone and got pushed back. They learned that they were the only person that they could trust.
Introverts often have a hard time trusting people. They often have a difficult time trusting people that they fear may hurt them. The good news is that introverts often become extroverts as they get older in life.
Introverts often feel lonely and extroverts may not even know it. If you are trying to create small talk with an introvert, expect them not to say much at first. They will open more if you ask them a question directly. Sometimes you must ask them a few questions before they start talking.
If you find out the interests of the introvert, they will often start talking more. You may say something like, “What kinds of food do you like eating?” Once they tell you, try to ask them more questions about why they like that food or where their favorite place to eat is.
How Do Introverts Flirt?
Introverts flirt with their body language. They will often stare at someone that they are interested in. Many people think that when an introvert is staring at them, it is because they do not like them. However, nothing could be further from the truth.
Introverts are often afraid to make small talk. Therefore, staring at someone or even nodding is something that they do. Most extroverts find it hard to read the body language of an introvert because they often do not show communication through talking. Instead, their body language says it all.
As you can see, there are many examples of small talk that are often misunderstood. Small talk can only happen when we put our minds into it and go with the flow. Fear keeps us from making small talk happen. However, once you work past your fear, making small talk becomes a lot easier.